By Santura Pegram
For most people, determining which is the greatest of Maslow’s five hierarchy of needs is debatable. However, what cannot be contested is the power of real love when you find it, embrace it, are blessed with cultivating it, and can share it.
Coincidentally, the famous words of American novelist Tom Robbins couldn’t have said it better than when he poignantly expressed how “we waste time looking for the perfect lover instead of creating the perfect love.” Sadly, far too many people expend a vast amount of their lifetime trying to do just that – “looking for,” instead of “creating,” the essence of what true love really is and whether or not they’ve ever had it (or the potential for it) right under their own nose.
For one South Florida couple, they epitomize what this often-taken-for-granted need truly means.
On the outside, just a few short years ago Kayleigh Ferguson-Walker and Ramon Ferguson-Walker appeared like any other couple in love: comical and jovial most of the time, apprehensive although dreamy-eyed at others. Yet, on the inside, since they’ve known each other they have always shared an uncommon bond of unselfish mutual support that transcends selfish trivial materialistic desires; a rare trait absent in most relationships today. And, they are two incredible people who have been – and continue to be – tested far beyond what the average human mind can imagine, let alone endure. Although Kayleigh nor Ramon want anyone to feel sorry for her, no one should ever allow themselves to think or feel life is so bad for yourself, because if Kayleigh and Ramon can rise above such a life-altering challenge, then surely you, too, can overcome adversity with prayer, time and grace.
Kayleigh, the 32-year old wife to Ramon and mother of their beautiful young daughter, Aaliyah, has undoubtedly endured more than her share of unfortunate circumstances that most people would likely have given up hope on altogether. Amazingly, NOT Kayleigh or Ramon Ferguson-Walker. Unlike most people, this couple is learning what it means to “digest ‘no’ responses as vitamins” and use other people’s unspoken doubts about her to prove what someone with an indomitable spirit can overcome – with teammates like their Heavenly Father quarterbacking her life and Ramon leading her defensive game plan.
Tragically, in early 2017, the Ferguson-Walker’s endured a series of unimaginable events that completely changed their lives forever. Pregnant at the time, Kayleigh unexpectedly developed complications which led to not only the loss of her unborn baby due to contracting a serious infection which triggered a diagnosis of sepsis, but also the loss of both of Kayleigh’s own arms and both legs as a result. Quite a sacrifice for merely seeking to have a (second) baby. Despite all of that, through her unwavering faith in God, her inspiring love for life, her unyielding love for her husband and family, as well as her incredible love for people in general, Kayleigh has transformed into not only becoming a human testimony of what our Higher Power is capable of doing in spite of, but together, her and Ramon are also becoming the classic example for what true love and a fully-committed relationship looks like despite the most extreme conditions.
Now, a little over one year after the ordeal that would forever change their lives while simultaneously continuing to test their faith in God and each other, Kayleigh is continuing to heal and decipher God’s strange purpose for her life. What seems to be unexplainable to most people is clear to Kayleigh and Ramon: God has His hands on them both and she has an eye-opening message that will captivate any audience despite her lingering challenges from her tragic ordeal.
While recently seated next to Ramon and asked her perspective on the translation of life and love, a smiling Kayleigh gleefully conveyed, “For love, I see it as unconditional for Ramon and Aaliyah. Personally, my heart is not all mine; it is divided for the three of us so that anything I do pertains to my family. My life revolves around my family (particularly my husband and daughter) so my beliefs come from the guidance of God who directs me and helps me as a wife and mother.”
Adoringly, when asked what his thoughts were to the same question, Ramon expressed, “Our lives are meant for each other. The love that we share is not an emotion or feeling. It’s who we are in Christ, because he is love. The essence of everything comes from love. It is where we come from, who we really are, what we are made of. And, this is my wife and daughter. My family is my love and my life. They are a direct reflection of who God is in me.”
Although their spiritual strength and love for each other has helped them navigate through most storms thus far, the kind deeds of other people are just as important. Thankfully, while a previous GoFundMe campaign was created on her behalf to offset mounting costs not covered by insurance for expensive ongoing medical procedures and prosthetic limbs, a newly-launched separate initiative known as the Kayleigh Ferguson-Walker Homebuilding Fund seeks to raise contributions for the construction of an ADA-compliant, one-level, Ranch-style home that will be equipped with ‘Smart Home Technology’ enabling her to control most things by her voice.
Donations to help the ‘Kayleigh Ferguson-Walker Homebuilding Fund can be made online at: fundly.com/the-kayleigh-ferguson-walker-home-building-fund. Plans also include seeking for donations to go towards an education fund and hopeful donation of a new vehicle from any major auto manufacturer that will be modified for her to drive again and resume a life as close to normalcy as possible once she’s equipped with prosthetic limbs.
The resilient little woman with a phenomenal spirit and her uncommonly caring soulmate-best friend-lifetime partner are certain to touch countless lives over the course of time. If you haven’t heard of them before now, you will soon. They’re the humble couple who can teach people twice their age and/or other millennials alike what bulletproof love, genuine respect, and selfless commitment is all about. They’re living a love lesson unlike any other. A beautiful one indeed.